While I await the arrival of "the child," I've been reading Robert Wuthnow's book,
After the Baby Boomers. (Thanks Lovett, for the suggestion.) The book is about what Wuthnow refers to as "younger adults," a group he defines as persons from 18-45 years of age. (nice large group!) As a sociologist, Wuthnow looks at a variety of issues that he thinks are helpful to understanding this group of people in US America-- and how it affects this generation's practice of religion/spirituality.
In the beginning of the book, Wuthnow introduces a variety of topics he believes makes a difference to younger adults and how they live their lives and see the world. The one that caught my attention is something Wuthnow calls, "tinkering." He describes the younger generations as a group of tinkerers....
Wuthnow says, "a tinkerer puts together life from whatever skills, ideas, and resources that are readily at hand. In a culture like ours, higher education and professional training are valued tinkering may have negative connotations. But it should not. Tinkerers are the most resourceful people in any era. If specialized skills are required, they have them. When they need help from experts, they seek it. But they do not rely on only one way of doing things. Their approach to life is practical. They get things done, and usualy this happens by improvising, by piecing together an idea from here, a skill from there, and a contact from somewhere else." (pp. 13-14)
Tinkerers are able to live without having all the answers, can deal with uncertainty, and rely on resources outside themselves to solve problems. It also means that tinkerers are not going to make a sure and fast decision about things...they are going to talk about it, explore other options, see if they can pull a MacGiver kind of move and using a piece of gum and a fast food receipt, make something useful.
Tinkerers and spirituality, then, translate into a generation of seekers-- who will look to having conversation with others, creating new kinds of social networks, and being okay with not having everything right. Church communities, then, with too much structure, not enough room for creativity and expression, places where connection and relationships are not central-- will not be attractive to tinkerers. Tinkerers need spiritual places to be open and welcoming to a new and different way of approaching faith-- one that takes time and care.
What's clear to me is that the kind of church a tinkerer would be attracted to seems a lot like the kind of vision Jesus had for the kingdom of God!